A time to cry

Well, here I am again. this is hard to do now since I am now only left handed. I had (r) rotator shoulder surgery; the surgery went well, and I am now in a recovery period. All is well with that, although, I can't say much for the financial situation, especially since they will not lift so much as a finger to alleviate this situation; even to help themselves? I had just gotten off the phone with a mortgage holder, they do not seem to have a plan as to any other safeguards set within their system for even instances such as these? You would think that they would have something? So, I did all that I could as far as letting them know of this eminent danger of non-payment, and they express no concern for rectifying any such situation? I guess that leaves me with no other opportunities nor options, I must now join the countless many that are on the way to foreclosure and credit crushing to propitiate the principal of things! This truly represents how corrupt and futile this system is, especially when an upstanding citizen provides everything needed to prevent this situation, for them and myself; and to agree to follow ways of re-payment if they were implemented, but these findings show that even with a perfect credit score (809) with no late payments on record; that it's worth as much to them as a poor score and faulty delinquencies; they really do not wish to fix this situation, since they already have our tax bailout, why would they? If they did, they would safeguard such things to keep the economy going. With bad credit, I will now not buy anything through a bank because of high interest ratings due to this recording. I will now refrain from the extremities of this economy, and live well within my means as we all should be so bold as to sacrifice the unnecessities in life, and only buy for your true needs, not wants!

valid injury

I haven't written in a while due to an injury that I sustained on Feb. 13th 2009. I was out on my day off having some fun with a free pass that I received from a ski area that I deliver pop to. I am a snowboarder, I try to release some pent up energy when I can and when it's feasable for me to do so; usually when it's real cheap or free. To make a long story short, I fell on some ice on the slope due to the 45* weather that we were having. With that said you would probably say, that was a stupid thing to do? I will say to that, anything could happen once you step outside your door for the day; any day with any situation. If you only knew what I go through on the average day on my job; it's risky to get out of bed in the morning.
Since the injury I have been tring to work with financial institutions regarding my injury and my inability to work at my job; only one is willing to do anything for me, while the others will not lift a finger given the circumstances of the situation. I have asked for payment postponement on all of my debits; I am able to provide proof of injury, that doesn't matter to them they want me to first go into a state of delinquency; then they will maybe do something? From what I gather, they won't do anything at all. I would have hoped by being proactive with the situation that would have worked in my favor? It appears to me that these corporations have no plan, that it's the principal for them to run even the most responsible of us into delinquency? I don't see how that is to help the current state of the economy? When I called to tell the child support office about this, they had nothing that they were going to do either? "Your current now" they said. So what happens when I'm not? when the money from my sick pay and vacation runs out? Where are they going to get the money from? I won't have it, I need to eat right? It is apparent to me that this system is severely flawed; they have no plans for any kind of stability even for a productive member of society?

Sacrafice

I would like to talk about sacrafice, something that most people don't know much about that live here in America. Sacrafice is a building block mainstay in my life. I have to make cuts in my life in order to keep things in my life stable. In past posts I have mentioned that I have my own home, I drive a new car but in order to have those I have to keep things very modest in my life. I guess that I could say that I put other things first and foremost, like my kids. If I didn't have a reliable car, I may break down at an inopportune time with the kids in the car. So that is the reason for the new vehicle not to metion the fact I drive 70 miles round trip to work and provide 90% of the driving to pick the kids up and drop them off. When the gas prices rose I had to cut groceries, driving anywhere in excess, fun activities for the kids or myself for that matter. I have not run the air conditioner through the hot times just to save for the future, it worked, I managed to eliminate one months bill completly and cut the next month in half by suffering in the heat. That would be something that most Americans would not consider, especially if you have the air already connected to the house. I have cut my heat in the dead of winter, down to 60* on days I'm at work and keep it down when I'm at home. You may call that resisting temptation in a round-about way. I work out gift ideas that benifit the whole family instead of on a selfish state of thinking. I will talk to the grand parents for thier contributions so we can all save. I will generally keep things down to a NEED only basis. No clothes, toys (fun stuff), activities, vacations consist of here, anything that most people might take for granted, I have been cutting out of my life for the last 5 years so that I can maintain my home and all the extremities of that home to provide for my childern and support for them. If there is any medical expences I pay half, that constitutes many sacrafices in my life. I must say that it is getting more difficult to do when the system doesn't forgive nor relieve a person in this situation. Needless to say, I don't have anything else that I could sacrafice unless I gave up my home. I have tried to sell it, but in the market we are in, it's next to impossible to come out ahead. I have asked the kids how they would feel in that case, I watched thier faces sink in response. That house it thier only refuge to the other world that they live in for the better part of the week. I feel bad because I am not even hanging on by the thread, I already fell and ONLY by the grace of GOD, I make it one more day, one more month, one more year. HE is the only thing that saves me, because I am not able to trust in people anymore. Since, only if it effects them do they WANT to care enough to change anything and they must have the means, or no one will listen to the problem to fix it. I have tried and I will keep tring until one hears, hopefully it won't be too late. If I fall, I must say that there is something seriously wrong with the system that we have invested all of our faith into and we need to look for the truth, it's time for the truth, it's time to fix us. Our selfish behavior has to end, we need to all get on the same page for the divorced fathers that are there for thier kids, WE NEED RELIEF, or the children of this world will continue to fall as well. We all need support!!

Time and their future

It seems to me that everyone is after your time.. That is the ulimate goal for someone to control you through your time that you have to give someone else. They seem to utilize it so that they don't have to do much of anything or as less as possible for themselves. You find it at work, your boss wants to keep you working as steady as possible to get their moneys worth out of you. I notice this most in the childsupport system and court system. Lawyers working diligently to get more for the other party so that they can get more money from someone else, in the childsupport system the Father. Drain this person until there is nothing left. Can someone tell me how this helps the kids? If you use up a natural resourse up until it's all gone you can get no more of it, it's gone! This is what I notice happening in my life & the lifes of countless fathers around the country, probably the world. How does this help our future? If fathers give up because of sheer oppression, abolishment of rights, frustration and lack of motivation, the children of the future won't have a future. These kids won't have higher education, the ability for a down payment on a house with the help of there parents, a new car, a rainy day nest egg to start off a new life with! All of these things are obtainable without the help of aid from the state/government, all with the help of parents working together not as enemies looking to get paid and destroy one another so that one can live better than the other. So the children will be the benifactors of what each parent has to provide for them and there future!

Fairplay in the courts

I had a lawyer that was a woman representing me, as a man I thought that she would understand my e-wifes side and what she wanted and I could explain what I needed? That didn't happen at all. I found out that the lawyer was only looking out for her best interests not mine, for the most part it seemed as though she was fighting for her? The battle was given up and the rights were forefitted on my behalf. I don't understand why people in this field take advantage of the innocent, I guess that's the whole world. Any time there is money involved people want to take, not give the service with compassion and empathy. After all of the struggles through a years worth of deliberating this drawn out divorce I am left with a backwards decree with the rights in her corner and the deception from my trust in the courts and my lawyer in mine? I need to find someone that will fight with me to overcome this tragety that befalls so many fathers. This only frusterates and promotes regret and apathy toward the most important, the children!

Family

These are some pictures of all of us.

Dads need help TOO!!

• We have bills and need to survive just as much as women do!
• Is it good for the kids if they see their fathers fall?
• Good fathers tring to provide for their kids, how can we make it fair with the laws as biased as they are?
• Everything is backwards, laws were supposed to protect us, why do they only favor?
• We can change all of this if we all stand together on the same step!